Everything being in your 20s isn't

A hard pill I’ve had to swallow recently is that being in your twenties isn’t all about having fun and making life-changing mistakes. When you turn 30, life doesn’t magically align, just like the movies said.

They lied.

For most of my life, I looked forward to my twenties. I imagined being young, free, and just living—finally having the freedom and money I always dreamed of. I’m in my twenties now, and this is definitely not the subscription package I signed up for.

Now, it feels like I’m setting myself up for failure if I take even the slightest break. It took me a long time to reconcile with the fact that I have to be strategic about my future—especially in my twenties. And that means no fun.

Some might argue that it doesn’t have to be this way, but our realities are different. The truth is, many of us won’t get to live life or do all the things we’re ‘supposed to’ in our twenties. But if we don’t work hard now, we risk missing out on enjoying life in our thirties and forties too.

Our twenties are for the back-breaking work of building a foundation that sets up our future, and that scares the hell out of me.

I don’t know what I’m doing.

Most days, it feels like I’m floating—unsure if I’m making the right decisions to establish my future while sitting on the sidelines, watching life pass me by, because I can’t afford to make a mistake.

I don’t know if I should take another course because no knowledge is a waste, stick to writing and hope I start making real money from it, jump on the crypto airdrop bandwagon because everyone is doing it, or become a realtor and sell lands.

How do I know the path I pick is the right path?

Will I regret it later on, knowing I missed out on being young and stupid?

I’m not going to lie, these days I’m resentful of the older generation.

I feel like I’ve been plunged into the ocean for my first swimming lesson. How is it possible that I never had a glimpse that this was what I was going to face?

How could they not warn us—warn me?

Now I live for these moments of clarity, when I feel like I know my purpose before the doubts creep back in, and I'm questioning everything all over again. It's a constant cycle, one that leaves me feeling isolated, like I'm the only one struggling with this.

But I know that’s not true, It just can’t be. We might not have all the answers, but maybe, just maybe, we can figure it out together.

One thing I love about us Gen Zs is that we don’t shy away from these conversations. We complain, we vent, and most importantly, we talk about the hard stuff.

So let’s talk—how are you navigating your twenties?

I need pointers.

Somebody, anybody, everybody, please!

Sophia💜

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Mind Dump

This part is where I clear out my mind—literally. Recommendations, thoughts, anything and everything. Without further ado:

Reading:
I’m currently reading Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller, and boyyyy… an amazing book! If you want to work on your personal brand, I highly recommend it. It’ll change your outlook on how you market yourself and your brand. As for fiction, I’m not reading anything at the moment, and I’d love some recommendations! If you have any, comment away!

Little note: I’m looking for books with zero spice but an amazing plot. Thanks! (I read manga too!)

Music:
I’m not a big music person, but Kaestrings always nails how I feel about God. Check out “Rahama” if you haven’t already.

Movies/Series:
I just finished Queen of Tears—loved it, but it really should have been 12 episodes. The twists and turns got a bit unnecessary. I also started The Office, but I’m not sure I want to continue —It’s lowkey meh.

That’s it!

For now…